The Laban Johnson Group

Experts say that reacting to events as stressful is
learned behavior. We can unlearn it and learn new ways to
react. Of course none of these experts ever worked for your
boss.

Still, it's really not the outside event that's
stressing you out, is it? You and your body are stressing you
out. You're allowing the outside event to trigger that
reaction.

Tactic: Ask yourself, does this really have to be a
stressful situation? Do you gain anything from allowing it to
generate stress?

Tactic: Consciously work at lowering the stress levels
for the people you work with, changing the scale of the
ambient stress around you. You'll be surprised how quickly
that can lower your own stress level as well.

Tactic: Sometimes simply backing off from a situation
can lower your stress. Take meditation breaks. (That’s medi-
TA-tion, not medi-CA-tion.

) Get out of the office for lunch.
If it helps, play hooky occasionally, even if it's just
leaving an hour early on a Friday afternoon for a movie date
with your spouse. Take your vacations. They'll make you more
successful not less.

Workers at one Japanese firm take a hula break
everyday.

Paul Sheehan is an architect and the CFO of the Dyer
Sheehan Group, Inc., a leading investment real estate
brokerage in Ventura, California. He's also a former
professional musician. Paul handles stress as well as anyone
I know. When he does need a break, he shuts off his phone and
closes his office door, a sure sign he's not to be disturbed.
Then he picks up his guitar.

"I might spend 15 or 20 minutes concentrating intently
on whatever song I'm writing," he says. "And de-pressurizing.
For those few moments, work becomes the farthest thing from
my mind."

Tactic: Take a one minute vacation several times during
the day. Close your eyes and imagine yourself on the beach in
Bermuda or skiing down a slope in San Moritz. Like the beer
commercial says, "It's a whole new latitude." And you know as
well as I how often a solution to an intractable problem pops
up once you stop hassling about it and let it percolate
around in your unconscious for a while.

Tactic: Seeing your situation through the eyes of
others can't help but put it in a completely different
perspective. That's why support and peer coaching groups can
be so effective. And of course they also allow you to tap
into a far broader range of experience than you could
possibly gather on your own. Just being able to vent in a
truly safe environment (preferably outside the company) can
often deflate an overblown problem.

Tactic: In your off hours, if you happen to have any,
find something interesting enough to keep you from obsessing
about your job. This can be tough, especially when you
consider that one of the main causes of lack of sexual
interest in both men and women is preoccupation with work.
Like Pandas, humans often have difficulty breeding in
captivity.

If sex, or at least sex with your spouse, can't get
your mind off your job, find something that will. Learn to
dance or play a musical instrument, exercise, play in a
softball or bowling league, take courses in adult ed, take a
day trip, have a night on the town, collect matchbook covers
(or manhole covers for that matter) or just do something
you've never done.

If you've got to obsess away from the job, do it about
something other than work. Back in the early 70s, a good
friend of mine got deeply into the "Paul McCartney is dead"
hoopla.

"I decided to worry about that," he said, "so I won't
have to worry about anything more important."

If all else fails, worry about Paul McCartney. I mean,
could Silly Love Song really have been written by the same
man who wrote Yesterday? If he's not Billy Shears, who is?
What is really going on here, and isn't it just possible that
Brian Epstein and John Lennon were eliminated because they
knew too much? And how does Marilyn Monroe fit into all this?

Tip: If you don't have any off hours, get some.

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Author, speaker Barry Maher, is an expert on communication,
leadership, management & sales as well as a motivational
keynote speaker. This article is adapted from his book, Filling
the Glass, honored by Today's Librarain magazine as "[One
of The Seven Essential Popular Business Books." Read Barry's
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