I received an email from someone who had to make hard decisions in his life, and has suffered throughout his life because of those decisions, and other challenges that plagued him when he was younger. The letter says, “Hi, Paul. I’m here to say a deep, heartfelt thank you. I discovered your show recently and […]
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If you love someone, can you set them free to the point where they hit bottom? Sometimes the bottom is the only way back to the top. Tough love exists for a reason and sometimes it is the only way to see true change in someone who is being self-destructive. At the same time, it’s […]
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Dysfunctional behaviors often come from trauma, neglect, or abuse, but some can come from seemingly benign areas of life as well. We don’t know the full impact our childhood had on us until we’re older trying to relate to other people outside of our family. In this episode, I talk about one person’s experiences from […]
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The first segment is about a young woman who keeps getting “ghosted” by her dates. It’s starting to impact her self-esteem and she’s wondering if she’ll ever find a life partner. In the second segment, I reply to someone who wants to hate those who’ve wronged her, but her spirituality says it’s better to forgive. […]
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Getting that job, buying that house, moving in with that person, promising to repay a debt… all commitments that that most of us go into with good intentions, but is it required to keep them no matter what? Some commitments that started off as a good idea may need to be re-evaluated if what you […]
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Taking a stand or protesting an injustice in your life isn’t always about being aggressive. Often, it can be a peaceful objection that helps you move toward honoring yourself. Sometimes you have to take a bigger stand, even at the risk of loss. In this episode, I read an email from someone who didn’t appreciate […]
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What is the right thing to do or say when your adult child tells you about their sexual abuse? In this episode, I read an email from a mom who recently learned that her adult daughter was abused by another child when she was young. I bring my girlfriend Asha, an advocate for the prevention […]
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I read three emails that dive into awkward feelings when interacting with others, deciding whether to settle for someone who doesn’t know what they want in a relationship, and someone who wrote to me saying that they are lonely and depressed. Lots of variety makes for a packed show. (the following transcript has been modified […]
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The challenges of today seem greater than ever. Emotions are running high and we can become triggered easily. What do you do with all this pent up energy? If you’re not using it to fight for a cause or help you out of a dangerous situation, it may be festering inside you causing you to […]
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Obsessing about your ex wastes all your time and keeps you in a rut that you can’t get out of until you take hard steps to disconnect from them completely. That involves a lot of will power and determination. But when you get your life back, it will have been time and energy well spent. […]
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There is a way to deal with mean family members. It may involve treating them like other people instead of family, which can help you disconnect from wanting to impress them or be loved by them. This episode helps to prepare you to deal with the not-so-friendly relatives you may have no choice but do […]
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Emotional abuse is the ultimate brainwashing technique. It hides in the form of feigned helpfulness, generosity, compassion, and love. The perpetrator knows how to appear kind and caring while intertwining abusive behavior, causing their victim to become powerless. Emotional abuse is a method of controlling, manipulating, belittling, and invalidating a person over time. It is […]
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When you are interacting with people that only want what they want, regardless of how it affects you, you’re in for a very dysfunctional, and possibly emotionally harmful situation. It’s important to know your line and know when people cross it, then honor that line so that you don’t lose a bit of yourself. (Transcript […]
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If you’re always looking in the rear view mirror, it’s quite possible you’re not creating the life you want. Sometimes you get to the tipping point where you just can’t stand it anymore and you take action. Segment one of this episode covers this and more. In segment two, there’s a seriously difficult decision facing […]
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