When Maybe Means No

Many of us find ourselves dealing with dilemmas. Many options. But which one to choose? Try this: A Maybe is a No. If one of those options isn’t a “hell yes!” to you, then don’t choose it. “BUT! BUT! BUT!” I hear you. You may miss out. You may end up a…

A Quick Guide to Neediness

Neediness. Desperation. Clingy. Weakness. For many these are the kiss of death. They kill relationships and repel opportunity. Solution? We pretend to be whole. “I’ll show you! I don’t need anything from the world! I’m already whole as I am!” And this …

Should You Stay or Should you Leave?

There are a lot of men and women who are on the fence about their relationships. I’ve been one of them, and it’s painful for everyone involved. “Should I stay? Should I go? Am I settling?” When it’s good it’s really good. But a lot of the t…

Does This Guy Have a Hand Up Your Ass?

There is a predator silently stalking you. It approaches from any direction at any time. It wants your money, your future and your peace of mind. It can and will steal the greatest experiences of your life. This predator is sophisticated and it’s sure …

When ‘Cowboy Up’ Means You’re a Pussy

“I don’t want to sound like a pussy, but she’s just straight up mean to me sometimes.” My coaching client Daryl* was telling me about his wife. “Mean? Like how?” I asked. “I ask her questions and she just shuts me down. I try to be helpful and she coun…

Do You Live Like You Fuck?

Tequila aside, it’s been said that a woman knows if she’d have sex with a guy in a matter of minutes, if not seconds. Many guys will want to reduce this down to external factors like body fat percentage, clothes he’s wearing, the car he’s driving, etc….

How to Take the Scary Next Step

“Maybe this woman will be ‘the one.’” “Maybe that job will be my calling.” “Maybe this book (or podcast) is going to give me the answer I need.” “Maybe this diet is the one that will keep me skinny.” We really want this next step to be The Last Step. W…

How to Win an Argument

“You know, if she would just listen to me we wouldn’t be having this problem,” Steve said. He was exasperated. “My wife just doesn’t get it. She always has to do things her way and it drives me nuts!” Steve is a coaching client (and that’s not his real…

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