Is Criticizing the Same as Problem Solving?

There’s a mindset that equates criticism with problem solving. It believes that complaining, shaming, or attacking is what makes the difference. But merely pointing out the problem doesn’t create a solution. It may have worked when we were toddlers. We…

Are Cat Videos Causing Cancer?

Imagine turning on the “news” one day and Slick Manlychin says, “Welp. Uh, this is weird, but, uh, everything’s going really, really well so we’re just going to show goofy cat videos today. Enjoy!” That’ll never happen at the top of the hour. Why? Beca…

Just Tell Me What To Do

The game show contestant runs through a cheering audience up on to the stage. The host accepts the handshake and says, “Choose one of these boxes to win an exciting Cruise to Tulsa!” Our contestant looks at the boxes and then out at the crowd. “What sh…

What’s Better Than Being Productive?

No matter the pay-grade, it’s common to meet the overwhelmed guy. Under pressure. He’s too busy. He’s got too much to do in too little time. Our culture seems to reward this. “Hey Joe! How you doin’, buddy?” “Stayin’ busy!” says Joe. Like that’s a good…

Mental Toughness and Inner Authority

He said to me, “I want you to help me develop mental toughness.” “What for?” I asked. “I make great money but my job is very high pressure. There are a lot of big personalities. A lot of jerks. I have to deal with a lot of BS,” he said. “So you want me…

I Don’t Know What To Do Next

The myth is that we need a huge amount of clarity and fire before moving forward. Not true. Instead, imagine we’re building a fire. Our curiosity, however faint it may be, is the spark. But it’s enough. Our job is to build the fire using that little sp…

Why We Don’t Follow Through

My coaching client thought something was wrong with him because he wouldn’t follow through on his agreements. And then he finally gave himself a challenge that mattered. He followed through. And now he sees that there’s nothing wrong. It’s like the pro…

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