“What is the one question — that if you knew the answer — would change everything for you?” I asked. “I don’t understand,” he said. “You’ve been telling me all about your problem. You’ve been explaining why things aren’t working. You’ve been telling me…
Tripp Lanier
That Time I Helped a Guy Who Thought He Was Going to Die
It was a beautiful day. I was surfing perfect, little waves in crystal clear water. And then I heard the yell. I looked around but didn’t see anything. There it was again — another yell. I looked into shore and a few hundred yards away I saw a guy wavi…
180 Mission and Purpose – What’s the Difference and Why Does it Matter?
Do you have a clear sense of purpose? What is your mission? And do you know what were you put on this Earth to do? How to find these answers.
Am I On the Wrong Path?
Here’s a great way of viewing the world if you want to stay stuck out on the end of the proverbial diving board: “I thought I wanted to XYZ. So why does it seem so hard? Why am I not in the mood to do it? Does that mean it’s not something I truly want?…
179 The Truth About Relationships – Neil Strauss
Neil Strauss discusses the cost of dishonesty and what he’s learned from his journey through infidelity, sex addiction rehab, open relationships, polyamory, swinging, sex clubs, and now marriage and fatherhood. The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Re…
If You Don’t Like Your Options in Life…
If you don’t like the options in your life, chances are it’s because you’re ordering from the menu. As if the menu of life could ever be an all purpose, one-size-fits-all kind of thing. But just because there’s a menu doesn’t mean you have to be anothe…
178 When Life and Work Get Out of Balance – Gerry Campbell
Work, family, and life out of balance? Gerry Campbell shares his journey through the early days of the internet, chasing big money, and how he’s bringing it all back into balance.
The New Year, New Me Shit Show
I’m far from a pessimist but let’s face it: this “new year, new me” bandwagon is usually a shit-show. It creates a false sense of urgency and distracts us from the most important stuff. Wanna know what that is? Let’s find out. Create two lists. List #1…
Better Than a Fat Drunk Guy in a Red Suit
I love this time of year because I love seeing so many signs out and about saying things like “Peace” and “Joy”. These are words that most of us don’t use — even though deep down they point to what we’re all wanting more than anything else. For many th…
177 Chasing Success: Hard Lessons Learned from Making Millions – S Brian Smith
Before Brian Smith made his millions, he was struggling to be the guy who stood above the rest. The truth? He was barely scraping by, $250K in personal debt, overweight, under slept, and very stressed out. What has he learned from chasing success and t…
176 When Do You Push and When Do You Course Correct? – Brian Johnson
Philosopher Notes Brian Johnson discusses his business course correction, making a big change with your company or life and honoring the people you care about, the difference between quitting and course correcting.
Are You Acting Like Prey?
Today I ran an experiment with my coaching groups. I asked them to share the most reassuring thing they could hear, what they would most want to know. You know what it was? They wanted to hear, “Everything is okay. You’re okay. You’re going to be okay….
175 Career Transition: Will You Be a King or a Prince? — Marc David
Is it time to make a career transition? Understand what makes a guy a king vs a prince plus how to find the next chapter of your career without losing it all. With Marc David of Institute for Psychology of Eating.
Zombie Dick Hair or Why Have Fun First?
Why have fun first? Because using pressure and pain and fear is a lazy way to motivate ourselves. It’s less effective, too. So what’s more effective? On a recent call with one of my coaching groups we were discussing how play has helped them do amazing…
174 Funny, Disgusting Stories and Spiritual Retreat Disasters
Tripp and Ray share embarrassing, disgusting stories from their spiritual retreat disasters. Consider yourself warned. Discussed: Meditation, Goenka, David Deida, Ayahuasca, men’s work, and more.
173 Make Love Not Porn – Cindy Gallop
Make Love Not Porn Founder/CEO Cindy Gallop — Porn vs real world sex, why you’re not satisfied sexually. Plus: making sex socially acceptable, the money to be made by gender equality in adult entertainment.
Where to Find Your Mojo
“I’ve lost my mojo. I don’t know where to find it.” Many times when we’ve lost our mojo, we retreat and wait for it to show up. This is scary. “Will I ever feel strong again?” But our mojo isn’t found on the sidelines or in the stands. Our mojo is foun…
When Guys Get Pregnant and Other Tensions
I talk to many guys who tell me their lives or careers have plateaued. No matter how successful they’ve become, things feel small and flat or boring. When I dig a little deeper I find that many of these guys are avoiding some form of tension or discomf…
172 What Makes Change Stick: Mind Your Body – Joel Harper
Mind Your Body author Joel Harper (Dr Oz’s trainer) discusses why some get fit, make more money, and have better relationships — and why most won’t.
“What Now?” – What To Do Next – The Three Selves
Most of us are navigating the world in one of two ways: The first is our young self. This shows up when we’re scared or hurt or defensive. We lash out or play the petty games we learned at an early age to avoid discomfort or weakness. Even as adults, t…
