“If I don’t keep pushing, I’m going to get left behind.” “If I slow down, someone else is going to eat my lunch.” “If I back off, I’m going to become irrelevant.” I don’t like to admit it, but these thoughts enter my head from time to time. My work and…
Tripp Lanier
Tears on My Face Standing in the Surf – Surfers Healing
I’ve worked with so many folks over the years and their stories often go something like this: “Much of my life is so boring and flat. I have this sense that I’m meant to do something bigger. But I’m not sure what that is. And besides this ‘Thing’ (said…
Why I got tired of playing with myself
As a young guitarist, I used to find a lot of meaning playing music by myself for hours alone in my bedroom. That got boring after a while. Why? Because I’d joined a band. That’s where we felt most alive and connected — those moments where we clicked t…
Why You Have Crazy Balls in Your Blood
NOTE: A second coaching group has been created (the first one filled FAST) and there are only 3 seats left. If you’d like to learn more about this opportunity and how it will help you then click here to answer a few questions. Thanks. ——…
What About Fear and the Creative Process?
“It’s rough out there. Crazy. If I want to make a big change in my life or business, I want the plan that’s going to work. I want order. I don’t have time or energy or money to mess around. And if I am wandering around I must be doing it wrong.” That c…
Sabotage and Finding Motivation
My client thought he was sabotaging his life and business. “I get what I want and then I don’t want it.” He was a badass at creating big visions and plans: Taking companies public, big titles, cash, stock options. So why was he struggling to find motiv…
171 How to Have Difficult Conversations – A Gay Man Comes Out to His Sons
How to have difficult conversations. A gay man comes out to his sons. How he navigated addiction, building a family, divorce, plus switching careers.
Cue the Jaws Theme Music – New Coaching Group
This morning I’m walking along the beach, the sun is coming up. Small clean waves are breaking close to shore. And up ahead is my favorite part of the walk. It’s the summer surf camp. Everyday there’s a group of goofy little kids out there with colored…
170 Build Confidence: How to Stop Playing it Safe – An Excerpt from a Live Coaching Call
Are you playing it safe or going for what you really want? On this live group coaching call, Tripp coaches a man to take bold action and overcome limiting beliefs.
“You Can F–king Do That?!?” – New Group Coaching Program
Pardon my french, but I can look back at the big turning points of my life and I can recall saying the same thing after each one: “You can f—king do that?!?” I would say that right after my mind had been blown. Right after I saw the impossible made pos…
A Guy Gets a Blow Job at the Beach – New Group Coaching Program
Recently I was watching a guy get a blow job from his girlfriend. Let me explain. I was in Florida, on my way to the airport after visiting a friend. We were driving along the causeway which is a thin piece of land that crosses a long body of water. It…
169 Dating: Starting Over After a Long Term Relationship – Shana James
Dating and starting over after a long term relationship. Starting conversations with women, sex and exclusive relationships, dealing with rejection.
You, Rocky, and the A-Team Walk into a Bar
If you grew up in the 80’s you saw this in almost every action movie or TV show. It was the montage. Let’s say B.A. Baracus and the rest of the A-Team had to whoop somebody’s ass. First they needed to build a van that could launch missiles and orbit th…
Are You Addicted to Comfort?
When I was in college I shared an apartment with two other guys. It was an absolute dump. It was hot. It smelled like ass, stale beer, and frozen pizza. The toilet was growing it’s own beard (“No! Don’t clean it! I want to see how big the beard can get…
Are You Chasing Someone Else’s Balls?
You’ve seen these dogs. The ones who are obsessed with the ball. Any ball. They beg their owner to throw the ball. They return it with urgency. And then they beg to have it thrown again. Relentlessly. They’re addicted to the dopamine rush that comes fr…
“Hey! How much for a blow job?!?”
I recently got called out by my friend, Forest. We were on the phone and he said something like… “You’re not bringing your full self to your work. I know your work and I’ve also spent a lot of time with you. And there’s a gap.” My heart started beating…
The Upper Limit Problem: Nobody Really Talks About This
Today I was on the phone with a guy who is a leader in his profession. He’s creating a movement. He’s changing peoples’ lives around the world. He’s becoming more visible because he helps celebrities and the people that help lots of other people. He re…
“I want someone to hold me accountable.”
Most people that want a coach say something like, “I want somebody to hold me accountable.” I don’t hold people accountable. Here’s why: My daughter is 5 years old. And every evening she depends on me or my wife to tell her it’s time to clean up and ge…
168 Listen to a Guy Beat Procrastination, Fear, and Self Doubt – An Excerpt from Live Coaching Call
How to Beat Procrastination Fear and Self Doubt. Recording of coaching client taking action, confronting fear, self-doubt, and beating procrastination. Plus: Finding meaning by helping others.
No More Hiding Out: Playing a Role to Be Successful
Joe was in his forties and was a master in his professional world. (Joe is not his real name.) He’s said that leading a board meeting full of powerful people was where he felt most at home. When Joe contacted me over six months ago to discuss coaching,…
